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Life & Death

 

Life.. its a crazy, wonderful thing. With every life, comes death. I have so many emotions today. This weather, so damp, cold, and humid, makes everything a little more gloomy. In my last post, I told everyone the loss of our sweet chicken, Rosy. Since then, we have had two deaths in my family. Both somewhat fast and unexpected and yet everyone knew, it wasn’t far. I think of our family, the trials and tribulations each and every one of us go through in the worst of times and event he best of times. It leads me to reflect on my life… what I want out of it, what I want for my children and husband, my siblings, and friends. With that, there are a few things I have come to know:

~ FORGIVENESS. This is key in any relationship. If you cannot forgive, then don’t expect for people to forgive you. We all say things, do things, and act ways that are inappropriate in someone else’s eyes. Forgive them.

~ RESPECT. Respect yourself. Respect others. Respect can go a long way when it comes to relationships. Don’t lie to one another.. respect others for all that they are, even when it seems hard.

~ LOVE. Ah. My favorite <3 Love one another. It is the most wanted thing in every single person. To be wanted. To be needed. To be loved.

~ BOUNDARIES. Learn to set them. That does not mean cutting people out of your life. That means making boundaries by having healthy conversations with one another to express thoughts, emotions, and hurt.

~ FRIENDSHIPS. Cherish them. Find your tribe, and love them hard. Don’t waste time on the pettiness. When you find the ones you can laugh with, cry with, and share your frustrations with, don’t ever let them go.

I strive to live by these as often as I can.  Sometimes, it is easier said than done, and then other times, it seems nearly impossible.  But through all of the losses and death in my little lifetime, I have come to realize as an adult, that these rules above, if followed as often as you can, help to live a more peaceful, loving, and happier life.

I wish you all the same.. to live a life of peace, happiness, love, grace, and fun!

 

Happy New Year!… Now Back it on Up.

2017 is the start of a brand new year.  New goals. New friends. New trips, New problems, New opportunities, New Chicks. New everything.  As we move on to the future, we are often told- don’t look back.  I believe it is important to “look back” because that is what we learn from.

Our household still has our beloved Pearl and Rosy.   They made it through the winter (which where we live, is no real winter) and through another crazy year!  Egg production was low, but hey, that’s normal right?  We have new goals for our girls—  new ideas to help them lay better.  Adding more chicks to our flock. Upgrading their coop to a much bigger one..  I have this idea to add a couple of goats-  yes goats- to our brood.

It is also a year of personal growth and goals.  I have ideas– ideas on how and where to expand this blog. Ideas on my family, their best interest, as well as mine.  Ridding the things (and people) that do not fit in our life– mostly the negativity.  Negative and unforgiving people. Negative problems that only bring frustration. And most importantly, becoming a minimalist.  Downsizing what we have in our home and working towards a more organized life.

One thing I have learned in 2016 is that my expectations are way too high.  I expect forgiveness, love, stability, and unconditional being from family and friends.  That is unrealistic.  It shouldn’t be though.   It should not be a bad thing to have high expectations.  If only to learn that when those expectations are not met, and you have a family member (or members) and friends that choose to act selfish, immature, and inconsiderate; have a proper way to deal without getting upset.  Still maintain those high standards and love for the ones around you and have a backup ready in order to cope with the disappointment.

Most recently, someone gave me a quote in a nutshell about what 2016 taught me:

“Don’t worry about what people say behind your back: they are the people who are finding faults in your life, Instead of fixing the faults in their own life.”

BAM!  This could not be more true…  and to the negatives this year, I say:

 

2017 is a new year. With a new year, comes a new chance at change.  Maybe you ought to try it too.